I want you to know that sometimes, love is hard.
You will love a lot of people in your life, Baby Girl, and each one in a different way.
Sometimes, love can be the easiest, most logical thing in the world, as easy as breathing. Loving some people is something you do without thinking. There will be people in this world you love before you ever actually meet them (like children, nieces and nephews). There will be people in this world you love for years after you last saw or spoke to them. It just happens. You can’t stop it, you can’t control it. You just love them and it’s just a part of who you are.
But that same uncontrollable love can hurt. There will come a time you will love someone you will not, and cannot, ever see again because they are gone. And that will hurt. It is hard to lose someone you love, no matter how or when it happens.
There will come a time that loving someone means stepping back and letting them live their life, including making their own mistakes and, at times, getting hurt, because that’s what’s best for them. And watching someone you love hurting is not easy or fun at all.
There may come a time when you are in love with someone who is in love with someone else. Let me tell you, Baby Girl, that sucks. There is no other word for it. It sucks, it’s hard and it hurts. And most of the time, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it because, once you love someone, it’s very very hard to just stop. You can’t exactly turn off your heart.
This is not to tell you not to love. Love with everything you have because the rewards can be amazing. But just know that you will have a few heartbreaks along the way. It will hurt. It will suck. It will be hard.
But you will make it through. We always do. It’s part of growing up and part of being alive.
I love you,