Dear Baby Girl,
I want you to know how important it is for you to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are.
You are who you are and you really can’t be anyone else. Yes, I know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true. You can try to be someone or something you aren’t, you can put on an act or a show, and it might work for awhile, but at some point, you’re going to lose grasp on that character and you will slip through. It’s easier to learn to love her than try to hide her and pretend to be something you aren’t.
If someone can’t like and love you for who you are, they aren’t worth your time. If you have to change who you are for someone, they don’t need to be in your life. I know it won’t feel like it, but it really is that simple.
It isn’t important to be the most popular person. If you want to be a cheerleader and go to parties and be surrounded by people — if that makes you happy — then great, go for it. But if you want to lose yourself in books and have a few close friends and just generally turn your back on “traditional” high school activities? There’s nothing wrong with that.
What is important is to be true to yourself and to love yourself. Confidence is amazing.
On that note, that curly hair you got from me will be the envy of everyone else, but it will probably make you furious sometimes, but always remember, it’s yours for good. Those freckles you will most likely inherit from me will make you “oh so cute” your entire life and you’ll want to scrub them off, but remember, they are part of you. You can straighten and dye your hair and paint your nails, cover your face with make-up but it’s not going to change who you are inside.
Learn to love her, learn to be proud of her, let HER out and you’ll be just fine.
Then you can worry about the hair and the make up and the clothes. those are accessories, those are accentuations. They are not who you are — nor should they be.
Love yourself for you and you’ll be much happier.
(Though I do have two suggestions — grow your hair long and use lots and lots of sunscreen. It helps. Trust me.)